2021.10.28 11:30 notquiteathroawayacc This is the dumbest shitpost I have ever thought up
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2021.10.28 11:30 Icy_Barnacle_1618 Proposing a break
So I posted yesterday about my partner (m, 40) and I (f, 30) and issues with anger, rage etc. I didn't go into a ton of detail so I'm gonna add some more of that here- His anger is often around seemingly trivial things - like he'll get extremely frustrated about technology failing, or he'll get frustrated and angry about what to watch on TV and he'll just shut down and give up.
His frustration tolerance is low and that's where a lot of the blowups come out of. He'll frequently rant about work situations, or if he dislikes someone he'll go off ranting and raving about them. He also sometimes gets rageful when we're at a party or with friends and he'll challenge comments people make in a really intense way that makes people uncomfortable. Sometimes it's called for and I'm on board-like if he's challenging someone for being sexist or racist- but not always. To me, it seems like he needs to pick his battles more wisely because he's expending all this energy on things that are not going to make a difference and letting himself get all worked up over nothing.
He also misinterprets things. Like he'll sometimes think that a cashier gave him a dirty look or something and I'm like no - actually that person didn't care and isn't paying that much attention. I think this is from deep insecurity and not accepting himself. I don't always know how to approach or comment on this bc how can you tell someone that their perceived reality is wrong or inaccurate without sounding like you're denying their lived experience? Idk. This is tricky.
He's never ever physically come near me or touched me inappropriately. He yells and it is disruptive to my nervous system to have someone be yelling like that but I've never felt physically in danger. I have my own trauma issues around yelling from growing up in a house with a lot of yelling so it upsets me and I don't think that's wrong-i think it'd be hard for a lot of people, but I'm also cognizant of my own sensitivities and maybe amplified physiological responses. And he's never called me names or put me down. The closest it's ever come to anything like that is occasionally making a sarcastic comment that feels childish but not abusive or cruel. An example would be saying "hope you had fun" if I went to a party that he didn't get to come to. Just more the kind of thing where you're like "really dude, how old are you?" But again, that is rare. The anger is usually more general and not at me - I just happen to be the person in the room listening to all the venting and ranting and absorbing it. (Which I DON'T think is okay and we've talked about it and he gets it but doesn't always have the skills to stop himself. Ughhh.)
He is committing to going to therapy and getting help, and also making some other changes to take better care of himself.
Outside of the anger issues, we have a very deep, loving connection. We have a ton of activities and hobbies that we enjoy together, we have a great circle of friends - both our own relationships and mutual ones, we enjoy going on trips together, we have a strong intimate connection, and we laugh a lot all the time. He works a very demanding professional job, and I work a demanding but not as intense job, too, but we always work to make time for each other. Up until very recently I was very committed to working through things and developing better communication skills together.
I was ready to end things because of the anger issues and I don't think it's enough to just commit to going to therapy and doing the work. He needs to want to do it for him, not just to not lose me. I think he has been really afraid to confront these parts of him that feel scary and out of control and so painful but I do believe that he wants to do it and absolutely that he can do it.
So I guess I'm wondering if people here have any experiences of working through issues like this when someone IS willing to put in the required effort to change their behavior. I'm thinking that taking a break from the relationship as it is today and revisiting things in 3 months may be a way to maintain accountability but not lose this very special thing that we have. Does anyone have their own experiences, or those of people close to you, to share about taking breaks to work on themselves and things getting better or changing for the best?
Note: I am also very committed to working on myself and the communication issues etc that I bring to the table and I've been in therapy for several years. It's helped enormously and I truly believe in the process.
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2021.10.28 11:30 xfornaruto 25 M [Friendship] - Here we go! [With a form!]
Let’s look at the epsilon number of ways of having good fun in a company of people (that are >= 1 and < 2 in their quantity, because I’m an introversatile kind of person):
2021.10.28 11:30 airbrushedvan Contemplative Wolfman.
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2021.10.28 11:30 ComprehensiveMap3459 [FREE FOR PROFIT] Baby Keem Type Beat 2022 "El Camino"
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2021.10.28 11:30 netbiosX Cobalt Strike: Using Known Private Keys To Decrypt Traffic – Part 2
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2021.10.28 11:30 Sn8per_Guy Is now a good time to buy eth?
2021.10.28 11:30 youngttop Was watching YouTube on TV then I saw this. I stopped chewing my food and went on my phone as fast as possible to take a screenshot. 999. We all miss you Jarad
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2021.10.28 11:30 kittybabylarry My Halloween Nails
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2021.10.28 11:30 PatientPreparation4 Crypto crackdown is ‘tip of the iceberg’ as US regulator seeks additional powers
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2021.10.28 11:30 Nexxo1337ger ich_iel
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2021.10.28 11:30 Charlie_Tango13 Hydraulics Podcast (PPMP)
If anyone is interested, I do a hydraulics podcast for Parker Hannifin called PPMP. We discuss products, markets, applications, and more. You can find it anywhere you can find podcasts, or on our hosting site: https://directory.libsyn.com/shows/view/id/ppmppodcast.
Would love to hear any feedback you have!
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2021.10.28 11:30 SzegedNewsBotka Vadászati Trófeakiállítás nyílt a Mezőgazdasági Karon
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2021.10.28 11:30 Defiant-Complex4384 What a beauty hands down. Beast mode fragrance with great sweet and soft smell. It projects like a beast
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2021.10.28 11:30 kowalsky9999 Diocese of Padua embarrassed by honorary citizenship to Bolsonaro
2021.10.28 11:30 Kirrahe Advice on PC build (1000-1200 euro budget)
I haven't really built a PC before but have been burned by prebuilt ones cheaping out on some components. Hope you can help me out!
I am looking for a gaming PC to run most modern AAA titles (doesn't have to be on max settings or anything). My budget is 1000-1200 euros and I'm located in the EU (Tallinn, Estonia).
I already have peripherals and OS, and can use the SSD and power supply from my old build (for reference, I've got a Corsair CX750). My old nVidia card also works (lost motherboard and processor) so I can keep running it for a while if needed, although it is quite old (don't remember the exact model and can't check since I don't have the old PC to hand).
Thank you in advance for any suggestions you can give!
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2021.10.28 11:30 No-Market2901 how to become a war criminal?
2021.10.28 11:30 itdood Stack sats and chill!
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2021.10.28 11:30 International-Code44 New parents subliminal QUICK
Honestly I really don’t like my mom she’s neglective not only to me but my siblings and niece and she doesn’t even care about my education (online school doesn’t even have me in the right grade for some subjects) I honestly do not want her as my mom anymore. Any recommendations?
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2021.10.28 11:30 Evanboi How to turn off audio while using wireless headset?
I’m on the Series S and I’m using my Arctis 7X headset, on my One X I was able to turn off hdmi audio to get sound straight through my headset. Not letting me turn this off on the Series S, anyone able to help with this, thank you!
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2021.10.28 11:30 ChocoPlayzReddit I found the giant poop in dross 1
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2021.10.28 11:30 fatcatlover1993 NFT give away (Zombie Penguins)
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2021.10.28 11:30 MrJod2002 Did I see right in the trailer for u5 that we will have bare concrete slabs now? (as in with actual concrete texture)